1. Get Moving and Get Outside
Spending time outdoors is a game-changer for mental well-being. Fresh air and movement can help you manage stress and give you a break from the usual routine. When my kids were babies and toddlers, daily walks were a must. Just pushing the double stroller around the neighborhood each morning and afternoon helped me get through those tough late-afternoon hours. Movement doesn’t have to mean hitting the gym—even a simple stroll makes a difference.
2. Connect with Other Parents
Finding people who “get it” makes all the difference. I had two coffee groups, one for my twin antenatal and another one for my singleton, and I had various activities like playgroups, Mainly Music and Wriggle & Rhyme. Having a network of friends who understand the unique joys and challenges of parenting multiples can be a lifeline.
3. Plan for Fun (for You and the Kids!)
Taking care of yourself is essential—even if it’s just a quick shower or five quiet minutes with a coffee. Schedule enjoyable activities for the kids too, like playdates or playgroups, but don’t forget to maintain your own friendships. Try to catch up with friends or family every couple of weeks; it gives you something to look forward to and adds balance to the daily grind.
4. Self-Care Is Key
“You can’t pour from an empty cup” is a saying for a reason. Caring for more than one little one means you’ve got to prioritize your well-being. This could be anything from gentle exercise to quiet downtime in a low-stimulation environment. When my kids were napping, I’d try to rest too, and I found yoga nidra was particularly helpful for a quick recharge. Google/YouTube/Spotify “Yoga Nidra” and there are heaps of free tracks.
5. Use HALTTSS to Check In on Yourself
A great way to make sure you’re doing okay is to use the acronym HALTTSS:
• H for hungry: Have a snack if needed.
• A for angry: Take a breather to reset if you’re feeling frustrated.
• L for lonely: Reach out to a friend or family member for support.
• T for tired: Rest when you can, even if it’s just a quick nap.
• T for thirsty: Rehydrate, especially important if you are breastfeeding
• S for sick or stressed: Tackle these by addressing your needs and seeking support when possible.
Taking care of these basics helps you keep going strong as you navigate the adventure of raising multiples.
6. Keep Your Own Interests Alive
Don’t forget what you love outside of parenting! Whether it’s reading, listening to audiobooks, or enjoying a podcast during a walk or drive, keeping a bit of “you” time in the mix is important for balance.
By Dr Missy Wolfman, Clinical Psychologist – Empowerment Psychology & Empowermums